Marylin (not her real name) is a domestic worker from the Philippines. During a story writing class for women staying the HOME shelter, Marylin wrote about the problems she faced with her employer. She ran away because she could no longer stand the treatment she received. Marylin is currently waiting to find out whether she can transfer to another employer, or needs to return home to the Philippines.
During the phone interview, when I was still in my country, my employer told me about her family: she said that she was married and had three kids. But when I arrived in their house, I was shocked because there were so many members of the family in the house, which means more people to take care of. More than she mentioned during the phone interview. But even still, I had to accept it and stay, because I was already there.
They let me sleep in the living room without a blanket. I had to hand-wash all the clothes, everyday, hand-mop the floors, and iron everything. I needed to wake up very early to do all this work, with no rest at all until late at night. They did not give me enough food. Every day I felt hungry, until my cousin sometimes bought me food. I thought that if I stayed with them longer and worked harder, they would change, but they did not.
Every time they yelled at me I stayed very humble, obedient, and I did not answer back at all. But I am a human so I do get hurt. I am not a tree that bends and sways, and needs only air and water for survival. Sometimes, if a very strong wind comes, even the tree gets uprooted or the branches will break. How much more will this wind do to a human?
If you throw a bone for a dog to catch, the dog needs to run before catching it, and he does it happily. There is always proper food for a dog, sometimes more than for a human.
Maids, helpers; they will not run away if their employers treat them as a human.
One thought on “‘A maid strong as a tree’ by Marylin”
True. I cried reading it. Most of the time employer treated better their pets than a helper. For most of esp local employer treat their helper as salary is enough from them to give to their helper. A good relationship As employer and helper should be easy if the employer treat their helper as human and not robot. Helper will be so loving,passionate, trustworthy if the employer just treat as human wit simple respect. Most employer abuse their helper buy giving watever they left over food, dog, cat are more lucky than helper. For 11 yrs wit different employer I worked wit, I encounters not one but a lot of bad ways that employer can possibly do harm to their helper, but now thank god for having the family I worked now for 5yrs.